Anal is a big decision. So, before your partner dives in at the deep end (scoff), paddle in shallower waters and try out some amazing anal foreplay first. Read on for my 10 top tips for anal foreplay.
1: LOVE LUBE
When it comes to anal foreplay (and anal sex), lube is your best friend. Unlike your self-lubricating vagina, your butt hole will probably resemble a desert, so use a good quality, water-based lube.
2: FINGERS AND THUMBS
Yep, you guessed it. At first, your partner should use just their fingers and thumbs.
A finger is likely to be thinner than a thumb, so start off with a lubed up finger and go from there. Alternatively, if your partner isn’t keen on fingering, use a very small, lubed butt plug.
3: DON’T GO DEEP
Don’t go deep or further in than feels comfortable. It’s all about stimulating your butt hole, where all the nerve endings are. That’s where you’ll get the most pleasure.
If you go too deep, it’ll feel like you need to poop. And that’s not a turn-on.
4: KEEP IT SLOW
Your butt is delicate. Don’t go ramming anything in too quickly (it definitely won’t be pleasurable)!
Take your time and ask your partner to take their time too. Go slow and enjoy every second.
5: FIND THE PERFECT POSITION
Butt play is awesome when you’re in the doggy style position. After all, your partner can get a full view and access all areas.
But, you should definitely switch it up and try different positions to find your favourite. Sitting on your partner’s face in reverse cowgirl is very pleasurable… Trust me.
The only way to get the ultimate pleasure is by telling your partner what you like. Talk to each other about it and get to know what gets you off.
Adam knows that I like it when he plays with my butt hole during doggy style sex. We all have our preferences, so make sure your partner knows yours!
7: IT’S NOT DIRTY
Contrary to what you may think, the butt hole itself is mostly free from anything poop-related. So don’t be anxious about your anus!
8: CLEAN THINGS UP
Use simple soap and water to clean your butt hole. Using an anal douche once in a while is fine too if you want to be extra clean!
Using extra stimulation is a sure-fire way to reach your climax.
Try a vibrator on your clitoris while your partner pushes a butt plug into your anus, or ask your partner to lick your nipples while fingering your butt hole. Or, like me, maybe you’re into vaginal sex and anal foreplay all at the same time. Experiment!
10: DON’T MIX AND MATCH
This is a number one rule. Do not use anything in your vagina once it’s been in your butt. Instead of mixing between the two, you should wash anything that you want to use in your vagina after it’s been in your anus (including your partner’s fingers!).
If you don’t want to ruin the sexual mood by running to the bathroom to wash your toys (or hands), keep a pack of wet wipes on your bedside table.