Blowjobs. Are they really that hard? Well, of course, you want it to be hard (and erect), but there are lots of things I wish I’d known before my first experience. I wanted to share them with you so that you’re in-the-know before you blow!

1: LUBE UP
Whether you’re into flavoured lubes or prefer to get your spit involved, you need to lube up. His penis won’t get wet all on its own – it needs a helping hand.

2: USE YOUR HANDS
You’ve only got one mouth, but you’ve got two hands, so use them! After pumping your mouth up and down for several minutes, you’ll probably find yourself with an achy jaw. Don’t panic! Simply swap your mouth for your hands for a minute or two.
Also, use your mouth and tongue around the tip while using your hands around the base (and even play with his balls, if he’s into that).

3: IT DOESN’T SMELL LIKE ROSES
You should definitely know this: a penis can smell weird. There’s no way to sugar-coat it. Well, there is, if you like that type of thing…
In all seriousness though, a quick rendezvous in the shower pre-BJ can work wonders!

4: EVEN THE SMALLEST OF PENISES CAN FEEL HUGE IN YOUR MOUTH
If you go to blow and suddenly feel like your mouth is completely full, don’t panic. It’s normal for things to feel huge in your mouth. Go with it, stop for a breath when you need to, and use your tongue to help. Which brings me onto my next point…

5: …USE YOUR TONGUE!
Your tongue is a very strong muscle. Use it to your advantage.
You can even make him think you’re deep-throating his dick if you tuck it under your tongue or use your tongue to block the back of your throat. Trust me… He’ll be moaning in no time.

6: USE THE ROOF OF YOUR MOUTH
People often think that the key to a good BJ is deep-throating. But – trust me – it’s not. The roof of your mouth moving up and down over his throbbing penis is just as good as your throat… Just avoid contact with your teeth!

7: 69ING IS AN ART FORM
As you might’ve seen in (adult) films, 69ing looks sexy, exciting and pleasurable.
Take it from me… It’s difficult! Just like doing a complicated yoga pose, you’ll have to stay in a certain position, balance, multitask and try not to fall over all at once. It’s a bit confusing to take and give at the same time – I prefer to do one thing at a time. I can concentrate (and climax) easier that way.

8: DON’T KNEEL
Like many of us have seen in films (or adult movies…), the person giving the BJ tends to get on their knees like they’re worshipping his penis. Not only does this limit the angles of the blowjob, but it also hurts your knees. Instead, ask him to lie on the bed or somewhere much comfier.

9: YOU DON’T HAVE TO SWALLOW
Feeling the pressure to swallow his cum? You can easily spit it out into a cup or the sink, instead. He’s really not going to care. You’ve just made him climax, and that’s all he’ll be thinking about!

10: DON’T EXPECT HIM TO CUM
A blow job isn’t a shortcut to making him cum.
Yes, receiving a BJ is amazing (so I’ve heard), but remember that it takes time before he can climax. Practise your BJ techniques as regularly as you can and ask him what will make him cum.
Practice makes perfect… He definitely won’t complain about it.

11: BJ FOREPLAY
A blow job doesn’t have to be the main focus of your sex-fuelled session, and definitely doesn’t have to end in ejaculation. You can treat him to a BJ and then move onto more foreplay or full-on sex.

12: EVERYONE GAGS
Your gag reflex is there for a reason, and everyone has one. Don’t fight it.
Instead, deep-throat very gently, or just don’t deep-throat at all. This is the best way to avoid throwing up on your partner!

13: YOU DON’T HAVE TO GIVE TO TAKE
If, for some reason, you don’t want to give your guy a BJ, then don’t! This doesn’t mean that he can’t please you in return. If he refuses to give out until you give him a blowjob, he isn’t worth it.

14: GET ICY
Ice cubes are your friend. Whether you’re into food-related foreplay or not, you should definitely try giving a BJ with an ice cube or two in your mouth. It’ll make it more intense and your guy will shiver with delight!

15: KEEP EYE CONTACT
Eye contact during a BJ session is hot. Really hot. Make eye contact with him, glancing up at him as you take his dick into your mouth, and your sultry skills will have him climaxing in no time.

16: WHEN YOU BLOW, IT DOESN’T MAKE YOU A HOE
You’re not a slut if you love to give BJs. End of.