I’m going to be a bit big-headed here for a moment… I am awesome at fingering. I don’t want to blow my own trumpet (I let Vicky do that!) but I’ve got a lot of experience, and I’m sharing it with you. So here are my 10 fingering secrets… Don’t tell anyone!

1: ASK HER WHAT SHE LIKES

The worst thing you can do is go straight into fingering her without talking about what she likes. Does she prefer it rough and ready, or slow and steady? Chat about it and be in-the-know!

2: KNOW HER ANATOMY

If you’re a fingering first-timer, do a bit of research.

It’s good to know about the different parts of the vagina, and where you can find the clitoris. Speaking of which…

3: …DON’T IGNORE THE CLITORIS!

Use your fingers (one or two should do the trick) in her vagina, but don’t forget about her clitoris. It should be caressed whenever possible to give her extra stimulation. You can use your tongue, or even hold a small vibrator on her clit while you’re fingering her.

4: MAKE IT WET

Yes, a vagina self-lubricates. But this can take a while. Don’t keep fingering her if she’s dry.

Lick your fingers (and/or lick her vagina!) to make sure it’s lubricated before you finger her. She’ll thank you for it.

5: IF YOU’VE GOT CRAMP IN YOUR ARM, YOU’RE DOING IT RIGHT

Got the sudden feeling that your arm muscles are seizing up from all the excessive, rhythmic movements? Good! You’re doing it right!

Seriously, though, you’ve got two hands, so remember to swap if your arm needs a rest!

6: FIND THE PERFECT POSITION

Try fingering her while she’s in lots of different positions. Some positions will give her more pleasure, as you’ll be able to put pressure on her g-spot or clitoris.

Vicky prefers lying on her back to be in ultimate comfort while I’m fingering her, but mix it up, experiment and see what works best for you and your partner.

7: ANAL FINGERING

You don’t have to stick to fingering her vagina.

If she likes it in both holes, go for it. You’ll be a multi-tasking master!

8: USE YOUR THUMB

So you’re getting into the fingering rhythm, but she’s asking for more? While using two fingers to finger her, use your thumb to stimulate her clitoris. Use your spit or lube to make it really wet.

9: GET HER REACTION

Every time you stimulate a different part of the vagina or change up the speed, watch for her reaction. If she moans more or talks dirty, you know she’s into it. Do more of what she’s into, and you can’t go far wrong.

10: FINGER MOVEMENTS

Experiment with different finger movements, and know where to be gentle.

The clitoris and labia are sensitive, so use light touches when stimulating those areas. These light touches on the more sensitive areas are a good way to tease her, turn her on and make her wet.

Use your index and middle fingers for penetrating her. These are the longest fingers and will give the most pleasure.